Use a handheid mirror to see exactly what you're doing and take mental notes of what works, so you can develop a mental map of where your most pleasurable zones lie.

One way to hold the Zumio is to squeeze your thumb and your middle finger around it and place your index finger onto the intensity button, so you can easily adjust the setting. You can also hold it like a hairbrush, gripping the stem, with your thumb on the intensity button.

Lay the Zumio stem and head so that the entire stem and head is in contact with the outer lips (labia majora), and slowly move the Zumio around the outer lips, around and over the mons pubis and down the other side. See what feels good here. Pro top: Most new users go straight to the clitoris, which is usually too sensitive at this point without sufficient warm-up. Instead, tease yourself until you can't take it anymore.

Explore the inner lips in the same manner. Maybe start on the edges where the inner and outer lips meet and work your way in using the same kinds of explorative motions to see where you enjoy touch the most.

Now starting with the tip about 1.5 inches lower than your clitoris, position the stem against the side of the clitoral hood, and slowly slide the tip up to find the right amount of intensity. The stem provides the least intense stimulation, and it is a good way to introduce stimulation to the clitoris in a way that is gradual.

Using the head, explore the shaft of your clitoris. This is the part that is underneath your clitoral that can be left where the clitoris is erect.

Another smart feature of the Zumio is that if you press the head hard down towards your body, it will stop the rotation, but continue to pulse. As you slowly lift it up, it will get more intense as it has space to move. So, to see how much intensity, you like, press down and slowly lift up, stopping at your preferred level of sensation.

Reach down with your index and middle finger on either side of the clitoris and spread your fingers while pressing down, and then pull back. This will fully expose the clitoris.

Squeeze both outer and inner lips between your index and middle finger to make a lip sandwich with the head of the Zumio running along your outer lip. The sensation will transfer from the outer lip all the way through to the clitoris. For more sensitivity, this is a great way to decrease the intensity. You could also run the Zumio along the line between your finger and outer lip so that your finger absorbs some of the sensation from the Zumio. This is an even gentler version of the same technique.

With your head pulled back, you can press the stem directly on the clitoris, and then move the toy upwards until the Zumio directly hits the clitoris.

Pro tip: Have one orgasm with the highest amount of intensity. Immediately after the orgasm, press the toy down until it stops rotating. As soon as you're ready for another, lift the tip up slightly and get ready for the next back-to-back-orgasm. You can also move to the other slide of the clitoris for the second orgasm, which often helps the second one come easier!